On Handling Reactions

So I had to break the news of our cross country move to my parents. (Not the husband's family yet, oh boy nope.) One part of moving that may or may not affect people is the reaction of those near and dear.

It's also the one thing I never plan for. The barrage of "Why? No you're not. That's too far. What about X? What about Y?" and then, later on, "Change your mind yet? You know what you should do, move here!"

It can get very frustrating, especially because a great deal of that stuff is said out of love and sadness that you and the person will be even farther apart. But it can also be perceived as a lack of support for your life choices, especially as one gets older.

When the husband and I agreed to save on our taxes and get hitched, we both discussed (directly or not) our living-area preferences - something I feel many couples fail to do. And we both agreed that we'd like to experience a good number of cities in our time on this planet. (I'm planning a moon-based retirement.) Our move is just part of our life plan.

And there's really nothing you can do, except reassert calmly that you are actually doing this, this is your wish, and you are not going to have your mind changed. Even if you are uncertain!